Never leave a true relationship for a few….

The famous quote which I read, say three decades back, is still refresh in my mind today on relationships – All relationships go through hell, real relationships get through it.

NOT ACCEPTABLE

If we go back to ancient times, no bonded relations were there but with the passage of time, a man itself created the relation of husband and wife – meaning thereby to keep one lady as a wife irrespective of the status. Keeping relations with other women was not acceptable in our society. Even now, it is not acceptable.

CAUSE OF ENDING RELATIONSHIP 

During my 20 years of counseling in the women cell in the police department, which started from down offenses has ended with the now majority of suspicious nature cases or extramarital relations.

PRIORITY OF DISPUTES

The priority of dispute in relations now starts with ego followed by misunderstanding, extramarital relations, drug addiction, property dispute, interference of parents of both the sides while dowry is at the tail. But the cases registered under the relevant domestic violence, don’t hesitate to say, are with the weightage of the influences over the ‘Khakhi’ administration. There was a time when a person in uniform, irrespective of his status, had a terror among the society but the things look to be reversed and people with political backends have more authority over the police.

RELATED INCIDENT

I recollect an incident when I joined the women counseling cell, I used to get the meeting or any other important official document for the meeting etcetera through a constable in uniform. When he came for the second time, I was not at home but delivered the official letter to an old lady in our neighbor. Since she was illiterate, could not read it out but ask a number of questions – as to how the police have started coming to your home off and on?, is everything OK with the Bhai Sahib? any help from our side as one of the senior police officers is known to us and so on.

SOMETIMES HAPPEN LIKE THIS

When I put her wiser about their visits, she was satisfied rather blessed to continue with the job to maintain bonded relations. But I had to speak to the then Police Chief to please direct the concerned section to send an official letter to me through a cop in civil clothes. Thank Almighty, after that there had been no such incident. We have now maintained good relations with the police and everybody in our colony knows the purpose of the visit of a cop in our house even in uniform.

Coming back to the relationship, I had another memory in my mind of the 90s, when I had composed a number of couplets in Hindi, Punjabi and short write-ups in English.

RELATED COUPLET

It happened so that two couplets I could not complete for months together which were directly or indirectly related to relationships. One was – Maut Ko Jis Ne Kareeb Se Hai Dekha – Death who has seen it very closely which I could complete it only when one of my cousins was admitted in Trauma Ward due to severe jaundice attack and our family doctor has declared that he will die after six months if he consumes liquor during this disease. Exactly, after six months he was in the hospital and died before my eyes. Then, instantly I could complete the couplet as Maut Maut Ko Jis Ne Kareeb Se Hai Dekha – Death who has seen it very closely, Laksh Zindagi Ka Kuch Nazar Na Aaya – Could not have a vision of life.

OTHER COUPOLET

The other couplet too related to an extramarital relationship – Kishto Mein Rishta Kuch Is Tarah Badh Gya – Relationships developed in dribs and drabs could be suffixed with the next line as – Rakha Chori Ka Aur Khoon Ka Bataya – Kept it as secret but shared it as blood relations – when one of a close friends of mine shared with me, who has developed in his such relations.

FRANKLY SPEAKING

Frankly speaking, one should never leave a true relationship for a few faults. Nobody is perfect, correct and in the end affection is always greater than perfection as every relationship has its problems.